“Safety is not a prerequisite…”
These words, offered today by Resmaa Menakem in a newly forming Somatic Abolitionism group I am a part of, are powerful. And so true. The idea that we can only grow, heal, and show up when we are completely safe is a fallacy. Indeed, it’s in those moments when we feel both frightened and excited that transformation happens.
For people of color, bodies of culture, and other marginalized group, the idea that people even think safety could be a prerequisite is another tool of oppression. After all, marginalized people do not have the privilege of feeling safe much of the time. This is also so true for people who have experienced trauma, even if they do not identify as marginalized.
The beauty is that we can still heal, transform, and integrate even when we do not feel safe. Because human beings are resilient. Because our brains are elastic and ever-evolving. Because what we can do is create brave spaces where we can speak up, call each other up, sit in discomfort and witness both our experience and that of others. Again and again and again.
We need to show up. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially when it’s uncomfortable! And we need to keep showing up. For ourselves, for each other, and for our communities.