Can I Trust You To See Me?
As children, our deepest sense of safety comes from knowing that the people taking care of us see and meet our needs.
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Intimacy
Self-Compassion & Intimacy
Listening to a podcast this week, I was struck by this powerful statement made by Andy Izenson: Cultivating relationships that are resilient enough to take ‘ouch,’ ‘oops,’ and ‘no.’ Isn’t that the truth of it all? When we feel held and supported unconditionally, in a way that makes it totally safe to speak our needs
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Showing Up With Intention
In a recent conversation with my uncle, he shared a piece of advice his mother had shared when he was growing up: It’s important for couples to make space for themselves as individuals. I love knowing this about my grandma ~ that she believed in and valued making space for herself apart from
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Book Review: The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens, by Karen Bluth
Written in a way that is entirely accessible to teens, Karen Bluth has done a beautiful job of adapting exercises in self-compassion and mindfulness specifically for the needs of teens. The book is organized into 4 sections. Each section contains several activities to try, including art activities, guided meditations with mp3 downloads available, and reflection
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Turning Towards One Another
Do you sometimes look at your partner and wonder when things shifted? Elly Taylor’s research out of Australia shows that when couples come in for counseling and are asked, “When did things change?” The answer is almost always: “When we had kids.” Having children shifts our relationships with ourselves, our partners, and every other major
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#S.H.E.E.P.
We all want to fit in, to have people like us, to have friends. And we all have times when we feel like we don’t fit in, like people don’t like us, or we wish we had more friends. Life is hard sometimes. Teen years can be especially confusing. Stereotypes about what it means to
Sex Positivity
This summer has been the season for sex positivity with my clients. Several teen clients are having their first romantic dating experiences, while some of the young adults I see are exploring different ways of intimacy with their partners. Such fun and light hearted conversations, and so important. It brings me joy to be able to
Stillness
My partner and I take time to connect and check in regularly. It’s how we nurture ourselves and each other. Last week he shared that it wasn’t until he experienced deep stillness during yoga training that he realized how deeply it nourishes and refills him. What he longs for most in the midst of the
Being Seen
As children we find ways to protect ourselves from our vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished, and disappointed. We put on armor; we used our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear. Now as adults we realize that to live with courage, purpose, and connection –
Receiving
Parenthood brings all sorts of shifts in your relationship, including less time and energy for intimacy. It can be a challenge to find ways to connect with your partner in the flow of family days. And yet, it’s also a time of life where nurturing that connection is so vital… Once a week I get