In a recent conversation with a dear friend she talked about why she and her husband have stayed together, despite varied challenges and infidelities over the years. As she talked about her experience, one sentence stayed with me: “I know that we can process anything.” Feeling safe enough with someone to step into the mud ~ […]
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As children, our deepest sense of safety comes from knowing that the people taking care of us see and meet our needs.
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Saying yes to me is an important part of my journey, and one that I get to continue to refine. In each stage of life, new roles and requests provide the opportunity for me to deepen my skill set in this area.
Somatic is one of those buzz words that’s being used a lot these days. But what does it mean, and why is it being used in counseling spaces?
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Finding the right counselor can be tricky. Sometimes, the biggest hurdle is simply finding someone with an opening. Other times, the challenge lies in finding someone who has the skills to really support you in what you are working with. If you have a history of trauma, it is especially important to find a counselor
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We are all shaped by our early experiences – both within our families and in the larger world. I was recently reminded of this in a conversation with some friends. The subject of catcalling came up and I realized something about myself. Growing up, the kids in my neighborhood and I ran pretty free. There’s
Stan Tatkin is a leader in the field of couples counseling. His book, Wired for Love, is all about how our attachment styles impact our romantic partnerships. Offering a balance of education on attachment and our brains, and brief exercises to do both alone and with your partner, this book is a good resource if you
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Sometimes the most important thing we can do with those we love is learn how to step into difficult conversations. Learning to do this is a skill. A skill that takes practice, and a willing sparing partner, to learn. I sometimes hear from couples a fear or misperception that coming to couples counseling automatically means
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I was having a conversation recently with a woman who is in the process of opening up her relationship. In talking about how it is working out so far, she shared that she feels like the conversations she and her husband are having now are conversations that every couple should have. She’s never before considered
Listening to a podcast this week, I was struck by this powerful statement made by Andy Izenson: Cultivating relationships that are resilient enough to take ‘ouch,’ ‘oops,’ and ‘no.’ Isn’t that the truth of it all? When we feel held and supported unconditionally, in a way that makes it totally safe to speak our needs
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