With everything happening in our world right now, many of us find ourselves bracing for what’s to come. This bracing can also come with a sense of urgency and need to keep moving. While this is an absolutely reasonable response to current events, it’s also exhausting, especially when we are in more of a marathon […]
The idea that we can only grow, heal, and show up when we are completely safe is a fallacy.
Safety is not a prerequisite! Read More »
Trauma is a word that is used more and more, to describe a variety of experiences. The definition I use most often with my clients is something happens that threatens our sense of safety, and we feel powerless in the face of this threat.
Shepherds and Wolves Read More »
In a recent conversation with a dear friend she talked about why she and her husband have stayed together, despite varied challenges and infidelities over the years. As she talked about her experience, one sentence stayed with me: “I know that we can process anything.” Feeling safe enough with someone to step into the mud ~
Feeling Safe Together Read More »
As children, our deepest sense of safety comes from knowing that the people taking care of us see and meet our needs.
Can I Trust You To See Me? Read More »
What would it be like, instead, to cultivate trust? To believe that we are inherently trustworthy, and that others are as well? To believe that conflict can be safe, and that it is possible to have difficult conversations where everyone feels heard?
Self-Trust vs. Self-Control Read More »
Saying yes to me is an important part of my journey, and one that I get to continue to refine. In each stage of life, new roles and requests provide the opportunity for me to deepen my skill set in this area.
Maybe you remember that graphic video shown in your health class, the one that seemed meant to scare you away from all things that might lead to baby making? U.S. current practices in health/sex education classes are often fear based. And as a 15 year-old client of mine said recently, “That just doesn’t work!”
“Sexuality may thus be understood as a core dimension of being human which includes: the understanding of, and relationship to, the human body; emotional attachment and love; sex; gender; gender identity; sexual orientation; sexual intimacy; pleasure and reproduction. Sexuality is complex and includes biological, social, psychological, spiritual, religious, political, legal, historic, ethical and cultural dimensions that evolve over a lifespan.”
What the WHO has to say about Sex Ed Read More »
Somatic is one of those buzz words that’s being used a lot these days. But what does it mean, and why is it being used in counseling spaces?
What is Somatic Counseling and Why Choose It? Read More »