I’ve been thinking a lot about how we measure success lately – with our children, in our relationships with self and others, and in our work life. Culturally we are taught to focus on the tangibles. Did my child make honor roll, is my house clean, am I making enough money, etc. And yet, thinking
Working with families, I am regularly struck by the impact our emotional intelligence has on our happiness. The ability to identify how we are feeling from a wide range of options, to reflect those to the people we share our lives with, and to see them in others. Today I grateful for the amazing circle
The recent conversations about sexual harassment and assault have been powerful and triggering for so many. Whether you felt called to share, stated your resistance to asking women to out their trauma, or were a perpetrator who acknowledged harm you have caused, you were part of this. This cracking open, this bringing into the light,
Talking to the mother of one of my clients who identifies as transgender today, she shared a powerful statement she recently learned – being in it vs with it. As a mother, she is with her daughter on her journey. Only her daughter is in it. It strikes me that this is true of so many experiences we have in life.
This summer has been the season for sex positivity with my clients. Several teen clients are having their first romantic dating experiences, while some of the young adults I see are exploring different ways of intimacy with their partners. Such fun and light hearted conversations, and so important. It brings me joy to be able to
My partner and I take time to connect and check in regularly. It’s how we nurture ourselves and each other. Last week he shared that it wasn’t until he experienced deep stillness during yoga training that he realized how deeply it nourishes and refills him. What he longs for most in the midst of the
Appreciation has been coming up as a theme in my sessions with families. Each family member wants to be seen and validated. Who doesn’t? In busy family life, it’s easy to get caught up in all that needs to get done and forget to show our appreciation. Parents do a lot, and they do it
My daughter’s most frequent request these days is, “sing.” Followed repeatedly by, “more.” Anytime we are nursing, walking, cuddling, driving – basically anytime we are not engaged in active play – she wants me to sing. And she revels in telling me “no,” sometimes 15 times in a row, until I hit on a song
One of the things I love about my office is the beautiful garden that surrounds it. My landlord and fellow counselor is also an avid gardener. Each week when I arrive, I look forward to seeing the arrangements she has scattered throughout the space. This month, she is out adventuring and refilling her cup. Which
The title of a very sweet board book my aunt gifted us with last summer. I remember when she gave it to us, she said it caught her eye because every child needs plenty of nonsense in their lives. True that. The more I read this book, the more I fall in love with it.
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